Mercy Mercy

The other day, I finally took the time to watch this video on You Tube. It's about an hour and a half long. It's about a couple adopting two children from Ethiopia. I came away from it feeling really pretty angry and upset. One of the most disturbing parts, for me, was how the children's birth parents were so mislead, and lied to, by the orphanage staff, by the adoption facilitator, and then shut out by the adoptive parents. It was clear that the two sets of parents were not on the same page, and had totally different views of and motives for the children's adoption. The birth parents wanted to give their two youngest children a better life, and they wanted financial help. The adoptive parents wanted simply to be parents. It was clear that in no way were these adoptive parents prepared to parent these two traumatized little ones, especially the daughter. At one point, the couple meets with a therapist for help with the girl's behaviors. The therapist goes on about how obviously, the birth parents must have neglected the children, how they must never have attached to them, or met their needs, and this is the reason for the little girl's negative behaviors and refusal to attach to the AP's. In fact, that therapist has no idea what the children's life in Ethiopia was like. At the beginning of the film, when the children are still with their biological parents, it is evident the love and attachment they share. Could it maybe be that the little girl is angry and traumatized because she was taken from her family, who she was very attached to?? Hmmm...I wonder...
To me, this is an adoption that never should have happened. It was absolutely heartbreaking.